OMG! Its a thread about...Sex *GASP!*

[DR490N]

personally, i veiw sex in a slightly different light than most people...it is a means of procreation and an act of lust. nothing more. it tends to create a sort of metaphysical emotional bond between people, however, and should never be taken lightly.  

[Zombina Corpse]

Tenebrion Valefor

Why must people see it as a 'bad/immoral' thing? Personally i see nothing wrong with it. Its always censored on tv and people talk quietly about it. I mean when you really think about it, theres nothing wrong with it at all. In my opinion i think people should be introduced to it at a younger age and shouldnt be taught to keep quiet about it. Some people wind up supressing it and when it actually does come up in real life they get nervous or feel ashamed or something like that. Thoughts? Opinions? Input?

In my opinion i think people should be introduced to it at a younger age and shouldnt be taught to keep quiet about it.

It's called Bovine Growth Hormones. Want to know why little girls and boys are becoming promiscuous 11-13 year olds and becoming pregnant before they reach high school? Just ask our local dairy farm what he pumps his cows with before he milks 'em.

And have you been neglecting the amount of sex that is shown on television? Sexual innuendos are ALL over the place. The internet, tv, advertisements in magazines and billboards. Please. If you can't see that you must be absolutly blind or ignorant.

The things I hear come out of children's mouthes no adays astonishes me. I'm quite open to expanding your child's intellectual horizons and having them be aware of things at an early age instead of blinding them to false ideals, but come on. Children sleeping around before they reach high school? I know girls that are about half my age and dress more provacative than I do. Take a look in the kids' clothes section at the store, "Sexy" "Foxy", etc. What is this teaching your child?
 

[darkXmoon]

I agree with Milk on this one guys. The reason children are what they are today is because of bad parenting and surroundings. It takes a village to raise a kid. My grandfather taught respect at the age of 10 and made damn sure I knew that my body was mine and mine alone. An yes some of his words of wisdom got me in a lil trouble...like when I was about 9 and a boy looked under my dress to look at my panties. I had a cast at the time and whooped the hell out of him. An my family never let me dress like a hoochie hooker, EVER!  

[ArieirnBloodmark]

How did I know that I would see the topic of Sex somewhere in this guild at one point or another?
Well, atleast it will be done with.

Anyways, sex is a very fickle thing Many agreethat it should be talked about, many agree otherwise.

DoI believe it should be talked about? Yes.
Do I believe that it should be introduced younger than 12? No.
Why? because, knowing from experience, teens these days are already horny and just want to say that they arn't a virgin. To me, that's not cool.
Sure, you can ask me any question about myself and sex, and I will answer you to the best I can. Won't fase me in the least, trust me, people do it all the time to seeif it's true.
:: Shrugs :: I'll be keeping my virginity till I feel ready, not anyone who I am with. If the are ready, and would try to push me, then they wouldn't love me, now would they? And they can go find themselves a ********.
I like being my virgin self, even though no one believes I am. o.O;

And yes. This all just came from a 13 year old.

 

[angrygothdude]

i think the way alot of us were brought up...that sex was bad and dangerous...personnaly im open about it...im like this...you ask ill answer...in junior high i was asked if i masterbate...i said yes...everyone laughed at me...and i told them...whats so funny...you guys do it to...and then they got mad and left...and they have to censor tv...because some parents use tv as a day care tool...so they neglect their kid...so they want their kid to be...safe...when they neglect em...i say...we need better parents...and no censorship...and a friend of mine...use to say...if they stopped censoring thing they would start to show hard core porn...which is bull they make to much money off the tv...they wouldnt do it...(some one would...but not enough of them to care about)....i mean hell when you they censored bugs bunny...i had enough...  

[WhiteZombieBoy]

With all the sexual diseases out there, its wise to know the person you are sleeping with very well, if not to have them tested, and also you. I had a friend who was very promiscuos and found out not too long ago that she had aids. Its not worth losing people you love to a disease you don't have to get. Be safe.  

[Sulhir]

I don't talk about it much because it's a very special thing to me. I don't just give it out like free samples in a grocery store. I am fine with discussing it in a non-porn way with anybody. I don't know why it's so taboo. It a sharing of body and soul for me. But I have major trust issues, so no one really gets to share with me.  

[CeciliaPhoenix]

I believe that sex is such a taboo subject because our society has become religion based and most religions consider sex to be the "original sin" which also explains why women's rights took such a long time to come into being.

Sure, there are a lot of STD's, but the american government is acting as though the only way to protect our selves is to just not have sex until marraige because it's the christian thing to do.

It's not that I hate the idea, but there's also the double standard that comes with teenage sex, that boys can have sex with multiple partners and be considered cool, but if a girl does the same thing, she's considered a slut.

I wish that sex wasn't such a touchy subject for so many people. Me and my dad talk about it all of the time just so that he knows what I'm doing, who I'm doing it with, and making sure that I'm being safe about it. If more parents were like that, the world would be a much better place and people would be more comfortable with the idea that sex is one of the most important behaviors that humans ingage in and not something to be embarrassed about.  

[Fallentowards]

i Openly talk about sex........maybe not my own sexuality but my opinions. For me i consider it special and not something to be taken lightly. But at the same time i hate how people are like sex eww...ok how the ******** did you think you came to be? idiots. Teenagers have to be becareful if they really want to engage in that sort of thing they have to think ahead. As for myself i believe that you should love someone truly deeply before you think of having sex with them cuz not only can it result in pregnancy or sti(sexually transmitted infections...not always considered diseases all the time cuz some can be cured..key word SOME) if your not careful but it may end up in emotional damage of losing partners and such. So Just think ahead but be open to the idea that sex is a part of life  

[DR490N]

smart girl there.  

[CeciliaPhoenix]

When it comes to having sex with ANYBODY for me, I'm very cafeful about taking my birth control at the same time everyday and I insist on using condoms unless I know the person very well and I've seen a piece of paper from the doctor saying that they are completly clean. Hell, it's even to the point that I insist on going to a clinic to get tested with any new partner that I have if I plan on being with them for a long time.

Even though I'm thinking about abstaining until I see this guy that I've known for about 7 years again. He was the first person that I've ever had a crush on and he's told me that he's either going to visit me here in Oregon, or pay for me to go and see him in Colorado during the summer. Even though he said that he doesn't care what I do while we're 1500 miles apart, I'm starting to think that I do care and that having sex with someone else would be like cheating on him even though we're not on a relationship yet.  

[gothicrebel]

Well
according to freud because my parents were all anti-sex talk and everything im obsessed about it and junk
truly i think it kinda messed me up a bit
they weren't going to tell me anything at all... but alowd the school system

also
sometimes when kids are caught sweatdrop poor kids... masturbating
parents tend to get all "i didn't see that now did i " in their head
and they aren't open
which gives the kid the feeling they were diong something wrong
EVERYONE masturbates and it isn't as evil and wrong as parents often make it seem

personally
parents need to teach their children about their beliefs at a young age so kids don't end up like me with bein obsessed about it but keeping it a secret and junk  

[SunshyAlone]

As a virgin 14-year-old, I say this:
As long as you know that both your partner and yourself are clean, as long as you're both OK with it, and as long as everybody's using whatever protection they're going to use, why not? And I don't think sex is a bad thing, only to be spoken of in whispers. I think kids should have their questions answered, no matter how old they are. A watered down version, of course, if the child is very young, but don't say stuff like "the stork brought you." Because it's very frustrating when you want a real answer and you're getting crap. My parents never answered my questions and I learned what I neeed to know from my friends and from reading "teen" books. I'm afraid I might have a rather screwy version of everything, but I don't feel like I can ask questions about sex to my parents. And it shouldn't be like that. A natural act like sex should be an OK topic. I'm not saying four-year-olds should be allowed to watch porn or anything, but....Sex is not something to be ashamed of.  

[DreamerSpirit]

As far as sex goes, many parents need to be more open to the subject once thier children are old enough to comprehend and be mature about it.

My mother will be open with me and answer any and all questions I may have, however she'll also lecture me on how "I'm too young", with that I can see where she's coming from, as I'm only 16, but in all honesty it's a tad too late for me to be getting the 'you're too young' talks... however I used protection and was sure that I was emotionally ready.

I do understand that there are so m any diseases out there, including things as terrible as AIDS, so I'm very careful. I only had sex once, and if when I do have sex again I'll be just as careful as I was the first time.

I don't think that sex should be such a hush-hush matter, though I do agree that explaing what sex is to a three-year-old isn't good either.

Also, as for sex and love, I believe that sex can be had without love, though sex intertwined with a deep emotional love would likely be far more satisfying... though I can't really speak at all from experience on that matter.  

[Laharl Part Deux]

::Applauds Fallen:: Very wise woman indeed!

Now time for me to rant.

While I think in the past century the subject of sex has gotten a wee bit more out in the open. I believe that we have started to work backwards. Alot of the idea that sex is wrong come from the christian belief of "No premarital sex." In addition the primuscuity problem it seems the world is having is due to bad parenting. Most parents leave their children to themselves, they don't teach their children anything.

Getting back to the subject of sex being a no-no topic. Just last year the condom video, which was shown in health classes across my county, was banned on the pretense that it promotes teen sex. I'm lucky I got to see said video before it was no longer shown and for that matter I found nothing sex promoting about it. All it was, was a video telling teens how to use a condom. Which as my health teacher put wisely, is shown as saftey precaution and to inform teens for sexual intercourse later in life. My reasoning is that people are going to do what they are going to do, so might as well give them a little heads up.

I don't see whats so wrong about sex. I was taught it was a beautiful thing. That and I was taught that waiting is a good thing because it saves exsperience for later in life. Not to mention all the STD's floating around. I say this with sarcasim, just what need is more diseases killing people and ruining lives... I think if we talked about the subject more it wouldn't tempt
children so much. Come on, it's like when Mom tells you not to eat the cookies she just baked, and you want to do it even more, now that you know you an't do it. If the subject is out in the open, we can better prevent thing like STD's and teen pregnancy. Its like trying to catch a mouse, it's easier to catch it in a room with nothing in it rather than a room with stuff for it to hide under.