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[Recursive Paradox]

So some radfem second waver cissexist wire chewer decided to silence the ******** out of me and degender me all over her blog in comments. Before she knew that I was trans, we were having a very civil, polite and academic discussion regarding whether all porn is rape (i.e. she made that claim and I analyzed it and took it apart.) As soon as she found out I was trans, she derailed and silenced me based entirely on me being trans using slurs and nasty language.

I add a blurb into one of my combined posts (where I talk about a bunch of things) referred to her epic cissexist fail and she actually has the nerve to come to my blog and claim that I wasn't getting a job easily cuz the economy is bad.

Yanno, even though I wasn't able to get a job before the economy tanked (I didn't appear to be cis back then either, I was very visibly trans)

She's quickly on her way to a banhammer.  

[Recursive Paradox]

maenad nuri

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maenad nuri

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It's been nonstop since the symptoms of ADD started manifesting visibly to other people. There has literally been no break except when I isolate myself or go places where it's less visible (like at a movie or something)

I wish I could say it gets better, but it's more you make others get used to it. I used to be able to go to parties...now I have to avoid them. The combination Introvert/ADHD does not go well.

Being an extrovert has helped, but I still can't catch a break in any professional or class situation. I've had to shed friends too, for mocking my distractability and my hyperfocusing.

I'm just done with people downing me.

I stick with friends that downing is part of friendly teasing and if it goes too far, it stops with a word. My best friend has an LD and we seriously tease each other back and forth. But we also back each other up.

(Know what makes it REALLY difficult? Since Philip is autistic, and it runs in the family, I have a few tendencies. The resistance to change in plans is one...)

It's very rarely friendly teasing anymore. If they stopped when I called them out for going to far, it'd be okay. But they don't, so they're gone.  

[maenad nuri]

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It's very rarely friendly teasing anymore. If they stopped when I called them out for going to far, it'd be okay. But they don't, so they're gone.

Good. Cause that's just manners --

Story: Today, a few friends and I were hanging out at a restaurant, in one of those corner style booths. Another friend was trying to get out and R just sat blocking her. We are a very physical group, the type of friends that slap and hit and pull. It's expected, and if there are problems, we handle it.

I pulled his hair by the mohawk to get him to move. He grabbed my hand, and made me let go, growling, "never do that again."

He looked so shocked that I just said, "okay" and "I'm sorry." that it took him a few moments to apologize for grabbing my hand. Because a lot of people just get defensive trying to say that they didn't do anything wrong, whereas I know I did something wrong because I didn't know his boundaries. The two are not exclusive.

We're all good, of course, because while we are that physical type of group, we know that when someone has their boundaries, we honor them.

Now I just have to get him to stop seeing feminist as a dirty word, and stop saying the r-word and we'd be all cool. I cringed several times during our meeting today.  

[CuAnnan]

Most of my social circles are tactile.
Like we were in Washington tactile.
Huggy, cuddly, hand-holdy.

However, if someone grabbed or tugged my tail there'd be a painful wristlock and an apology forthcoming before I know what's going on. Muscle memory's good that way.

Just for future reference.

.... now that I think of it, that's what set my teeth on edge that time.  

[maenad nuri]

CuAnnan

Most of my social circles are tactile.
Like we were in Washington tactile.
Huggy, cuddly, hand-holdy.

However, if someone grabbed or tugged my tail there'd be a painful wristlock and an apology forthcoming before I know what's going on. Muscle memory's good that way.

Just for future reference.

.... now that I think of it, that's what set my teeth on edge that time.

See, this is all fighters -- we're play violence tactile. And that's the sort we are, but each person has their areas where it doesn't fly. For me, I can't be picked up off the ground. The last time someone did that, he also turned me upside down. He was kicked in the face, because I was panicking. I can't stand either of those.

...That's also my "I beat up a marine" story.  

[Wrath of Ezekiel]

Not necessarily a bad mood maker, if not slightly humourous:

Dear Dad,

No. You do not correct mom when she's talking about biology or chemistry. She's studying it further then you did and will eventually become a registered nurse. She's better at it than you.

No. You do not correct my sister when she's talking about political science or media / journalistic stuff. She has ever-expanding book collection and she always keeps herself in the former and she's currently part of the latter.

No. You do not correct me on urban design, urban renewal, or urban ecology. I'm currently taking it and learning it. I've read city bylaws, including the current city we've had this house in for the past 15 years. I know.  

[Nines19]

Most of our recent fights begin because of your unabashed bigotry.
You have problems with every group of people, if they are not cisgendered, white, and Christian. You've even expressed problems with my bisexuality, though of course not if it benefits you in any way.
You express these problems as generalizations and refuse to admit that they might be wrong - and then you say, "It's true; ask my dad!" Hun, your dad isn't a sociologist. He didn't go to college. He doesn't have any credibility on whether or not, for instance, the majority of blacks are bad people. In fact, he's kind of a bigot, too.
It's getting to the point that I can't talk about certain things - like my sister or people I know - without it turning into a fight, because you say something offensive and I call you on it, and instead of saying, "I'm sorry, honey, I won't say that again," you get angry at me like I'm in the wrong and tell me I have a "saving the world" complex. Wtf? No, I don't give a s**t about saving anyone, I just don't want to be married to an ignorant bigot.

If this tears us apart, I swear, I'll kick your a**.

And the funniest ******** thing is that you have black family members that you have no problems with, and your former best friend was openly transgendered.  

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maenad nuri

Story: Today, a few friends and I were hanging out at a restaurant, in one of those corner style booths. Another friend was trying to get out and R just sat blocking her. We are a very physical group, the type of friends that slap and hit and pull. It's expected, and if there are problems, we handle it.

I pulled his hair by the mohawk to get him to move. He grabbed my hand, and made me let go, growling, "never do that again."

He looked so shocked that I just said, "okay" and "I'm sorry." that it took him a few moments to apologize for grabbing my hand. Because a lot of people just get defensive trying to say that they didn't do anything wrong, whereas I know I did something wrong because I didn't know his boundaries. The two are not exclusive.

We're all good, of course, because while we are that physical type of group, we know that when someone has their boundaries, we honor them.

Now I just have to get him to stop seeing feminist as a dirty word, and stop saying the r-word and we'd be all cool. I cringed several times during our meeting today.

I'm tactile in that I'm huggy and I'll poke people but any of the slap fighting pretend violence stuff just bothers me way too much to do with anyone.  

[maenad nuri]

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I'm tactile in that I'm huggy and I'll poke people but any of the slap fighting pretend violence stuff just bothers me way too much to do with anyone.

Difference between folk. I mean, this group of people routinely go around beating each other with padded sticks. Our level is going to be calibrated different than others. It's more like the horseplay with my brother.

I'm not that way around the bellydancers, for example, nor when I was at Re-Con.  

[Aino Ailill]

I don't like watching movie trailers. What, exactly, is wrong with that? When I say 'no, I do not want to watch something,' it means I don't want to watch it! Thus, when you decide to watch something without me, me continuing to refuse to watch is not a result of me being stubborn because I refuse to back down, it is a result of me not wanting to.  

[maenad nuri]

Also, I hate feeling damned if you do, damned if you don't when it comes to parties. I feel horrible at them, and I feel horrible when I don't go to them.  

[rmcdra]

Stupid flashbacks. I wish you'd go away. I wish you didn't 'jump' me when I'm already feeling down.  

[Shearaha]

After not seeing my dads side of the family for about 3-5 years I have been reminded as to why I don't like to be around them. They are a group of spiteful bigots and I hate that my intelligent kind father turns into one when he's around them. I hoppe that I don't have to see any of them again for a long time. Let alone drive 3 hours round trip to spen 2.5 hours with them. I think the only one still alive worth being near is Great Aunt Flora.  

[Wrath of Ezekiel]

******** you spell check. I am Canadian, not American. Stop trying to turn "honourary" into "honorary". sweatdrop  

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maenad nuri

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I'm tactile in that I'm huggy and I'll poke people but any of the slap fighting pretend violence stuff just bothers me way too much to do with anyone.

Difference between folk. I mean, this group of people routinely go around beating each other with padded sticks. Our level is going to be calibrated different than others. It's more like the horseplay with my brother.

I'm not that way around the bellydancers, for example, nor when I was at Re-Con.

Yeah definitely. I don't hug folk unless I know they're okay with it.