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Posted: Wed Aug 12, 2009 7:45 pm
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Fiddlers Green Recursive Paradox Apparently definitions of words are useless because they don't reach the Meaning of the word (the ethereal "essence" of a word). Oh and this... idea... justifies using whatever ******** word you want to in order to describe yourself because definitions are useless and unimportant and hide the "beauty" of " Meaning". In fact, we apparently give words Meaning by using them to "describe ourselves" with. Oh and I'm apparently cissexist, pretentiously pedantic and/or care more about abstract concepts than I care about people because I didn't agree with/understand this concept. Heh. No mortal word will ever reach conceptual meaning. But if one is going to worry about it too much, one shouldn't use words at all, and let the rest of us who are working with what we have get on with our discussions. Meta-discussing is fun in only small doses. 3nodding
I got pretty close to saying that. I might be too nice for my own good because I really think it was deserved this time.
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Posted: Wed Aug 12, 2009 9:24 pm
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Posted: Thu Aug 13, 2009 7:09 am
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Posted: Thu Aug 13, 2009 11:53 am
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Posted: Thu Aug 13, 2009 8:19 pm
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Posted: Thu Aug 13, 2009 8:58 pm
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Posted: Thu Aug 13, 2009 9:06 pm
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So here's the deal, and it's a shitty deal, but it's the deal:
1. Leave NY as soon as I have the money, but leave Lucille behind, to be sold, to who knows. Never will see her again after all the goodness and kindness she's shown me, after all the joy she's brought into my life, and to potentially be put into the hands of one who will not understand or care for her as I do.
2. Stick around for the next couple years, paying off the loan. I'd be getting work outside of Chili's, so I'd be out of that toxic sinkhole, but I wouldn't be out on the west coast, etc.
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Posted: Thu Aug 13, 2009 9:17 pm
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Gho the Girl So here's the deal, and it's a shitty deal, but it's the deal: 1. Leave NY as soon as I have the money, but leave Lucille behind, to be sold, to who knows. Never will see her again after all the goodness and kindness she's shown me, after all the joy she's brought into my life, and to potentially be put into the hands of one who will not understand or care for her as I do. 2. Stick around for the next couple years, paying off the loan. I'd be getting work outside of Chili's, so I'd be out of that toxic sinkhole, but I wouldn't be out on the west coast, etc. No chance the folks will allow you to move and pay for her huh?
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Posted: Thu Aug 13, 2009 9:25 pm
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TeaDidikai Gho the Girl So here's the deal, and it's a shitty deal, but it's the deal: 1. Leave NY as soon as I have the money, but leave Lucille behind, to be sold, to who knows. Never will see her again after all the goodness and kindness she's shown me, after all the joy she's brought into my life, and to potentially be put into the hands of one who will not understand or care for her as I do. 2. Stick around for the next couple years, paying off the loan. I'd be getting work outside of Chili's, so I'd be out of that toxic sinkhole, but I wouldn't be out on the west coast, etc. No chance the folks will allow you to move and pay for her huh? My mother, the official owner of Lucille since the loan is in her name, doesn't feel comfortable about me going off with her.
God damn. I really don't want to leave her behind. Not just because she's a good friend and I don't want to abandon her, that's the main reason, but also it would make job hunting/work harder to do.
This plus some emotional self-inflicted shoulda seen it coming s**t is really harshing my Agape.
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Posted: Thu Aug 13, 2009 9:34 pm
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Gho the Girl My mother, the official owner of Lucille since the loan is in her name, doesn't feel comfortable about me going off with her. Fair enough. Hospitality and all.
Quote: God damn. I really don't want to leave her behind. Not just because she's a good friend and I don't want to abandon her, that's the main reason, I felt a loss when Madrona and Tayric passed as well. Same with Archi. The flip side of this is also that she might go to a home that is good to her. You've said yourself you have some ill-ease when it comes to maintenance for her. Quote: but also it would make job hunting/work harder to do. I can and plan to teach you to drive Haddie, even if you do have your own car when you come out here. It's a good thing for you to know how to do and I don't mind lending her to you.
Quote: This plus some emotional self-inflicted shoulda seen it coming s**t is really harshing my Agape. Deep breath.
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Posted: Thu Aug 13, 2009 9:40 pm
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TeaDidikai Gho the Girl My mother, the official owner of Lucille since the loan is in her name, doesn't feel comfortable about me going off with her. Fair enough. Hospitality and all. Quote: God damn. I really don't want to leave her behind. Not just because she's a good friend and I don't want to abandon her, that's the main reason, I felt a loss when Madrona and Tayric passed as well. Same with Archi. The flip side of this is also that she might go to a home that is good to her. You've said yourself you have some ill-ease when it comes to maintenance for her. This is true.
I just feel I'd be betraying her, and this breaks my heart. Like I'm tearing up just now.Quote: Quote: but also it would make job hunting/work harder to do. I can and plan to teach you to drive Haddie, even if you do have your own car when you come out here. It's a good thing for you to know how to do and I don't mind lending her to you. Quote: This plus some emotional self-inflicted shoulda seen it coming s**t is really harshing my Agape. Deep breath. These things are all true.
Hum. I still have around a month until I'd be able to afford it. I'm thinking if I can find a job, possibly a full time one, Ma might let me take her anyway if I can prove to her I could make the payments. And if not, anyways I still have a job set up.
I've sent a message to WorkSource explaining my situation, and if I don't hear back in the next couple days, I'll try calling again. I did try calling them today, but Madame Secretary was being all breakity in the reception and such, and so I chickened out.
There's also things here that could help me get out of Chili's, but at the same time, I'm still being called to Washington.
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Posted: Thu Aug 13, 2009 10:01 pm
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Posted: Fri Aug 14, 2009 10:42 am
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Dear mom;
Please, don't ever, ever, ever, tell me who to or who not to come out to.
Passing over the reeking heterocentrism of that, passing over the fact that there are some things more important than a paycheck or work, like self-respect, integrity, honesty, etc. but the simple fact is, you are not me.
You do not walk in the skin that I do. You have not faced the trails I've faced, and while I do know you've faced your own trials, you've never had to be gay.
Never.
So please, don't presume to know what is best for me. As much as you care, there are some things beyond which you cannot comprehend, nor should you nor would I want you to.
I'm not going to talk to you today, and while before that would be some form of punishment I'd be exercising on you, a practice I'm working to correct, I simply am too stunned to know what to say beyond yelling at you. I don't want to have a huge confrontation, not when you're so busy with other things. But right now I don't have the strength to stomach a calm conversation, at least not for awhile.
You were the one who was supposed to be on my side, and to be honest, I assumed to much. I assumed you understood, but today I'm reminded that there are some things that you won't understand. Not without some lengthy conversation. <******** I'm so disappointed and hurt.
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Posted: Fri Aug 14, 2009 11:03 am
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