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Posted: Tue Sep 19, 2006 7:04 am
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Posted: Tue Sep 19, 2006 8:23 am
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Posted: Tue Sep 19, 2006 8:30 am
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Posted: Tue Sep 19, 2006 11:12 am
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Posted: Tue Sep 19, 2006 3:35 pm
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Posted: Tue Sep 19, 2006 5:34 pm
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Posted: Tue Sep 19, 2006 8:41 pm
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angelBmine i HATE infedelity in real life, but tho it makes good storyline in movies and stories, i do happen to think of the cheated-on character and think "how do they feel about this?" not too happy i bet. movies influence how people act in real life. its hard for me to see the use and nice parts of relationships when i get right down to it, because, cheating is so publicized i dnt know whether my bf would do it.
Ok, so if infidelity in real life is bad but it's ok in movies and stories which then influence people to do it in real life....how is it ok in movies? Personally, I despise stories with infidelity as a main plot point. If you really care for a person or cared for them at one time even, respect them enough to tell them what's going on. I certainly do not agree that it's ok in movies and stories, because people see that other people think its ok there and they drag it into real life figuring "Oh well, people love this movie about cheating, so it's all right." No, it's really not all right. Even in fiction, it's not a source of good things, it's only a source of ugly emotions.
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Posted: Tue Sep 19, 2006 10:55 pm
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Posted: Wed Sep 20, 2006 7:51 am
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Posted: Wed Sep 20, 2006 9:42 am
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I should probably add that, you can't elliminate infidelity and cheating from works, society, etc. and frankly, I don't think that we should. More than just infidelity, I what I hate the most is glorification of infidelity, casual acceptance of cheating. I don't feel that it's something to be taken lightly. I think that people should get angry about it. It's not something to be used in the case of a romance as a source of angst, which is most commonly is. Infidelity is not pretty, it shouldn't be portrayed as such. It shouldn't be used to petty purposes. It's a nasty subject and people should come to realize that.
As for Brokeback Mountain, obviously the infidelity in the story was crushing for all involved. Men in love cheating on each other by marrying to follow the societal expectations thrust upon them and then cheating on those very same wives to be together. Who was cheating on who really? That cheating was no without a price. The story of that love, the story of that price, was heavy and beautiful. Cheating wasn't glorified. It wasn't tossed in as a casual sorce of angst. It was all encompassing, life-altering, heart shattering, and honest.
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Posted: Thu Sep 21, 2006 5:51 am
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I'm one of these people who really really dislikes the idea of infidelity, if you want to be with somebody then you shouldn't act upon desires to stray (I'm not saying you're not going to want to from time to time... just that you shouldn't actually do it!) My biggest gripe in a lot of the "gay" storylines you see on TV is that I've-always-thought-I-was-straight-bloke will always continue to string the wife/girlfriend along. If you're going to go off boinking someone else, have the decency to finish your current relationship first. ^^
I do think though that there's a somewhat different perception in society of a man cheating with a woman as opposed to with another man. You often get the idea that the wife/girlfriend is suffocating the guy, not allowing him to be his true "gay" self. (eg. In Brokeback Mountain Ennis' wife is seen to be something of a millstone round his neck). It's somehow not as terrible because it's "who they really are." (ie. a lying cheating scumbag... Lol.)
And possibly just because it's practically accepted in modern society that men can't remain faithful to any one partner. Eg. take the classic Todd/Karl storyline from Coronation Street (a British soap), Todd is feeling suffocated by his imminent marriage and domestic situation (one step-kid with another on the way, all at the age of 18 ); along comes Karl who represents freedom from the drudgery of settled family life. (Of course Todd continues to string his fiancee along till she finds out and the shock causes a miscarriage...) But, the point is, that we expect something like this to happen. Perhaps not with another man, but certainly for him to look elsewhere before he gets "trapped" in the relationship. It's a sad indicator of the times we live in.
I remember reading in a teen magazine in what must have been 1999 ( eek ) a problem letter from a girl who'd seen her boyfriend snogging his best boy mate (btw, he'd snuck away from her at a party to go do this, it wasn't a dare or anything). The agony aunt told her that he was probably just experimenting and that she shouldn't even bring it up with him! If that had been her best friend he'd been playing tonsil tennis with the reaction would have doubtless been rather different. - Just the usual double standards!
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