Am I still a virgin if..

[xPinkandBlackx]

Am I still technically a virgin if I have never had sex but have been fingered to the point where I have bleed? I swore to my boyfriend that I am a virgin but I'm afraid he will think I'm lying if we do it and there's no blood. I really really like him and want to be with him but I'm also scared to think that I really am lying to him.  

[xena91388]

The hymen is not the defining point of virginity. Virginity is a state of mind.

In ye olden days when women refrained from physical activity and we didn't have things like "moon cups" and tampons, masturbation was a sin, and doctors did not go near that part of a woman, then yes, an intact hymen could have been used as solid proof of virginity but that's not true anymore.

Also, you don't need to have penetrative sex to lose your virginity, like I said before, It's all a state of mind. Is a women who has a**l or oral sex with 30 men and her hymen still intact a virgin? Nope.

Technically, you are not a virgin anymore. You engaged in a sexual act and are ready for more. Your "innocence" is gone.

Your best course of action is to do what ll-Frantic-ll suggested and just tell the truth. Partners should always be 100% honest with each other. Just tell him you got into some heavy petting but a p***s has never been anywhere inside you.  

[xPinkandBlackx]

ll-Frantic-ll

xChibiGrimreaperx

Am I still technically a virgin if I have never had sex but have been fingered to the point where I have bleed? I swore to my boyfriend that I am a virgin but I'm afraid he will think I'm lying if we do it and there's no blood. I really really like him and want to be with him but I'm also scared to think that I really am lying to him.

Just tell him the truth. If you are having sex with this guy then you should be able to talk to him about things like this. Explain that you have done some things but that you have not had sex with anyone else before.

The answer to your question depends on what you view as losing your virginity. The majority consensus would most likely be that, yes, you are still a virgin because you have not actually had sexual intercourse yet.

He knows about what I have done but not that I have bled before.. He is still hesitant to believe me that I haven't ever had sex with a guy before though.. I just don't want to lose him just because I have a possibility of not bleeding when we do it.. I know that some girls don't bleed at all.. I just want him to be able to trust me. Thanks for your advice!  

[xPinkandBlackx]

xena91388

The hymen is not the defining point of virginity. Virginity is a state of mind.

In ye olden days when women refrained from physical activity and we didn't have things like "moon cups" and tampons, masturbation was a sin, and doctors did not go near that part of a woman, then yes, an intact hymen could have been used as solid proof of virginity but that's not true anymore.

Also, you don't need to have penetrative sex to lose your virginity, like I said before, It's all a state of mind. Is a women who has a**l or oral sex with 30 men and her hymen still intact a virgin? Nope.

Technically, you are not a virgin anymore. You engaged in a sexual act and are ready for more. Your "innocence" is gone.

Your best course of action is to do what ll-Frantic-ll suggested and just tell the truth. Partners should always be 100% honest with each other. Just tell him you got into some heavy petting but a p***s has never been anywhere inside you.

Alright. Thank you both for the help smile I really do appreciate it!  

[drama llama shimm3r]

You don't always bleed your first time. That isn't a good thing to go by. Just thought I'd say that.  

[xPinkandBlackx]

ll-Frantic-ll

xChibiGrimreaperx

He knows about what I have done but not that I have bled before.. He is still hesitant to believe me that I haven't ever had sex with a guy before though.. I just don't want to lose him just because I have a possibility of not bleeding when we do it.. I know that some girls don't bleed at all.. I just want him to be able to trust me. Thanks for your advice!

Him not trusting you is another issue entirely, especially if he has no reason to distrust what you tell him. Trust is big in relationships.

Regardless, good luck and I hope everything goes well for you. ^_^;

I agree.. anyway, thanks so much ^^  

[xPinkandBlackx]

Latula Pyrope

You don't always bleed your first time. That isn't a good thing to go by. Just thought I'd say that.

I have heard that, thanks for the advice though.  

[Clasela]

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I believe so. But it depends on your definition of virginity. Everyone is different. Also, if he trusts you, he should take your word, blood or no blood. If you don't bleed, it could have been from a form of exercise that's stretched your hymen. They don't break after all, they just stretch. Or you could have been born without one, like many women.
I was a virgin and I never bleed and it was more a blessing since there was no mess. But I used to exercise a lot and most likely was never born with a hymen or stretched it. My partner didn't care, we talked openly about it for a long time.
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[diet bepis]

I didn't bleed one drop my first time,
but I'm 101% sure I was a virgin.

If he considers blood to be the only thing that proves your virginity,
he's got another issue entirely. neutral

 

[ChiffaniChan]

It depends on your version of what a virgin is, a lot of people would not considered that "sex".
& Not everyone bleeds their first time, I didn't.  

[Isis Sister Of Osiris]

xChibiGrimreaperx

ll-Frantic-ll

xChibiGrimreaperx

Am I still technically a virgin if I have never had sex but have been fingered to the point where I have bleed? I swore to my boyfriend that I am a virgin but I'm afraid he will think I'm lying if we do it and there's no blood. I really really like him and want to be with him but I'm also scared to think that I really am lying to him.

Just tell him the truth. If you are having sex with this guy then you should be able to talk to him about things like this. Explain that you have done some things but that you have not had sex with anyone else before.

The answer to your question depends on what you view as losing your virginity. The majority consensus would most likely be that, yes, you are still a virgin because you have not actually had sexual intercourse yet.

He knows about what I have done but not that I have bled before.. He is still hesitant to believe me that I haven't ever had sex with a guy before though.. I just don't want to lose him just because I have a possibility of not bleeding when we do it.. I know that some girls don't bleed at all.. I just want him to be able to trust me. Thanks for your advice!

If.you're afraid.of.this guy dumping.you because you don't. bleed.the first time you have sex, you have a MUCH bigger problem.than whether you're a "virgin" or not.

First a.d foeemost, it sounds like he's pressuring you into having full intercourse and I'm picking up that you're not ready for.that. I might be wrong about you being ready but not about him.pressuring you. Trust me, I got conned.into sex at 12 (alcohol.was.involved but still). I smell pressured, and it's you.

Number dos, I've known technical.virgins who were the biggest whores ever. They would.do.oral and a**l with anything that had a.p***s, but since they still had their hymens they were virgins.

Numbah three: whom.you have sex with, if you even have it, or if.you don't have it ag all is NOBODY'S BUSINESS BUT YOURS. if that guy is so hung up on your history, how about he fesses up about HIS sexual activity?  

[InterstateDaisy]

xChibiGrimreaperx

Am I still technically a virgin if I have never had sex but have been fingered to the point where I have bleed? I swore to my boyfriend that I am a virgin but I'm afraid he will think I'm lying if we do it and there's no blood. I really really like him and want to be with him but I'm also scared to think that I really am lying to him.

Here's the really funny thing... Some girls don't bleed! When I lost mine there was nothing. The idea of virginity is in your head and no one can really define it. With the whole hymen/bleeding thing, it actually isn't a good definer. Some girls are even born without one. As we get into puberty it naturally gets weak and something as simple as riding a horse or a bike or playing a sport can break it. So just be honest with him. Tell him "I've been fingered before but that's it". That way he'll have some understanding of how far sexually you have been.

 

[Isis Sister Of Osiris]

xena91388

The hymen is not the defining point of virginity. Virginity is a state of mind.

In ye olden days when women refrained from physical activity and we didn't have things like "moon cups" and tampons, masturbation was a sin, and doctors did not go near that part of a woman, then yes, an intact hymen could have been used as solid proof of virginity but that's not true anymore.

Also, you don't need to have penetrative sex to lose your virginity, like I said before, It's all a state of mind. Is a women who has a**l or oral sex with 30 men and her hymen still intact a virgin? Nope.

Technically, you are not a virgin anymore. You engaged in a sexual act and are ready for more. Your "innocence" is gone.

Your best course of action is to do what ll-Frantic-ll suggested and just tell the truth. Partners should always be 100% honest with each other. Just tell him you got into some heavy petting but a p***s has never been anywhere inside you.

THIS. ALL OF IT.