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So, i have a frenemy. she has been a rankle in my mind ever since the first day she insulted my relationship as mere nothing. while my boyfriend and i are long distance, we are seriously in like with one another, actually love is the better word now.

she has done nothing but s**t talk about us; how i should find a boyfriend in california, how i should just go out with the guys who take an interest in me at school, how i shouldn't put "all of my eggs in one basket", how i should take off my rose colored glasses. i don't know who the hell she thinks she is, but really i have told her to stop. my boyfriend and i are in it for the long run, i told her. she got offended.


Then, the topic of virginity came one day during our lunch period: she proclaimed on just losing it because the first time won't be special anyway, implying that my other friends and i should just do it with random people. what? i said that i intended to keep my virginity until marriage and she scoffed at me. second what.

furthermore, religion. during the lenten season, i was participating giving up something for lent, my something? junk food. she offered me chips, i said no because i don't want to give in to temptations, and she got offended once more and started denouncing my religion. she started on this self justifying rant on how jesus basically killed himself so that the people wouldn't sacrifice anything. i said that was self centered of her to say, we got into a verbal argument, and she left me alone.

next, rumors. i have a platonic friend, he is legit the best guy ever, and while the chemistry between us is there, neither of us will take the step to making it into something other than the friendship it is now. i have my boyfriend and he has his soon to be girlfriend. anyway, we are close. we hang out during and afterschool a lot, we ride the same public transportation, study together, make music together, the works. she saw this and immediately started talking s**t to our friends saying how i was the reason why my guy friend broke up with his ex girlfriend of three years which is soooo not true, how i should just go out with him, and my boyfriend should dump me. or how she thought that my long distance boyfriend is actually not real when she talked to him on the phone and saw him while we were on facetime one day.

also, i did talk to her about these problems and really, all she did was kind of scoff at me. she then turned to our other friends trying to make them think i am the bad guy because i go to them to get information, and not directly to her. they said they told me what she was saying and that she has no right to be mad at me because they did it without me pestering them or even asking them to tell me. i really wouldn't even know the crap she was saying behind my back if it weren't for them.

ok, yeah. she's a b***h. i'm a b***h, so i told her if she had a problem with me to tell it straight to my face... so i can slap her when the time is right, i'm kidding.

yeah. end rant.

i would legit tell her off if she does something else.

i seriously don't know why she has so much antipathy for me. i am an awesome friend.i mean i was always up to hang out, to tutor, to listen, and she turns around and acts like i'm the b***h.

i hope so. > n >
she even had the gall to ask me a week ago to help her fundraise for her trip to europe. wat.

hell nawh, i told her to go away.
i'm pretty sure she thinks she's a b***h.

what happened with your ex friend?

Firstly, you would honestly be better off without her. It sounds like she is either extremely jealous that you actually have some values and things in your life that actually matter.. or she is just targeting you to be the person that she picks on because she feels that there are less repercussions than there would be if she chose someone else. Either of those things are really just to make her feel better about herself and actually have nothing to do with you personally.

Secondly, why would being long distance make your relationship any less meaningful or make your bf any less real? My relationship is long distance as well.. my bf is sitting across the room from me atm and he looks very real to me. neutral

I would suggest, if you can't just remove her from your life, just bare with it as much as you can and be around her as little as possible. High school only lasts a few years then you can move on with your life and never have to talk to her again if you don't want to.