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 Posted: Fri Mar 29, 2013 3:33 pm
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Posted: Fri Mar 29, 2013 3:41 pm
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Posted: Fri Mar 29, 2013 3:58 pm
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Posted: Fri Mar 29, 2013 4:20 pm
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Posted: Fri Mar 29, 2013 8:19 pm
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Posted: Fri Mar 29, 2013 8:37 pm
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XxAriaxX Hi Anaaaeu, well I'm 22 and I have never kissed either razz ! I want to kiss someone that I love XD when it will happen (because there his no one now ). There were times that I felt down just because I've never had a boyfriend... However, that is not the most important thing in life. I think it should be health, family and friends. When you'll go to college, you must try to talk to people in your class to make new friends or at least someone that you can talk and count on to take notes for you when you'll sick for example... You can diminish your shyness ! It takes effort and motivation. I was a really shy person and now I feel I am really less shy. Also, if you have the time to work this summer or volunteer it would be a great opportunity to be more social and talk to people...
I actually wanted to start working this summer but I'm too afraid exactly because I'm so shy! I know I'll have to do it if I want to get past it especially because I'll have to start working someday but it terrifies me.
I now that having a boyfriend/ girlfriend is not essential and I usually get busy doing other things since I'm a pretty active person and I end up forgetting it but then, in between those moments, I just sit down and feel how lonely I really am. I love my family and since we are 6 people here at home (usually more, even) they help in making me less lonely but I still feel the need for other kinds of relationships and I feel terrible that I can't make them happen. I want people to get to know me and get to love me (any kind of love). I know I must put effort in it but I just get tired of being the only one actually caring. It takes a lot for me to open up but I've been trying to do it. I only talk 3 or 4 sentences a day and when I do no one seems to want to listen. So I just shut up and keep everything to myself. Including my loneliness. |
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Posted: Fri Mar 29, 2013 9:00 pm
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Hello Anaaaeu, how are you feeling tonight? 3nodding
Graduation can be a depressing time in itself, even without the added thoughts of never having that high school fling or not really getting the chance to make many friends. You're leaving your familiar surroundings, you're no longer going to be the big fish, you're leaving all the people you're used to seeing every day. It's entirely different and your life becomes different, and that can be pretty saddening on it's own.
Sometimes High School is just a difficult time for things like that. In my case, I didn't make friends as easily as the other person. I still had friends though, luckily it just kind of happened in my case. I didn't have a boyfriend until 12th grade. As you can probably guess, the fact that I didn't actually go out and make friends didn't help me getting a boyfriend either. I did like guys, but I just couldn't grow a pair and even talk to them to become their friend. Social anxiety definitely hurts. ; w;
While I didn't go to college, I can more than likely assure you that you'll meet people there. Every friend of mine that went met people, it just happened. College is entirely different, it's more open and people are more mature and accepting. People WANT to meet others in college, and I'm sure people will want to meet you too. I know how much it hurts to make the effort and not get any in return, but I definitely want you to keep trying. Trying is the best you can do, and at least that way you know you're giving it your all. If those people can't see that, then obviously they're not the friends you need. 3nodding
It's the same for finding a boyfriend. Sometimes you just don't meet that guy as fast as you'd like. I hear of people all the time who make it into their 30's before they meet the one for them, it can take time. Think of it this way, as corny as it sounds, good things come to those who wait. It may seem hard now, but it'll definitely get better. 3nodding Don't feel bad just because you haven't found that guy yet. Don't feel sad even after working your tail off! Work out for you, just fill yourself with confidence in how you look and see yourself as the beautiful woman you are. Men eat that up, they love it, maybe that guy hasn't seen you yet because you haven't given yourself a chance to shine. 3nodding Just keep going! I'm sorry if my words don't really help, but I'm here if you ever need someone to talk to. I may not have the best advice, but I'll listen! |
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Posted: Fri Mar 29, 2013 10:36 pm
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Welcome to the club! 19 and still haven't kissed yet. You know you really shouldn't be gloomy about all this. You should be celebrating that soon you will be free of high school. I'm really insecure and I barely talk but in college I found the best group of friends one could hope for.
Like everyone says - College is so much better then High School. In College is where you make true friends. Friends that have common goals and interests as you. People that are more mature and real.
The truth is these people right now in your life aren't listening to you and you shouldn't feel bad about it. I know it hurts. But they are stupid people who don't deserve the time of thought you put on them. They aren't the right people for you and are obviously too consumed in their own worlds.
Don't compare yourself to others or to perfect ideals, or to what have or have not happened. Don't pressure yourself. It does you no good and it's a unhealthy habit that is hard to stop. You are who you are. And that's a good thing. Think about all the good things you've accomplished. Think about the positive. Right off the bat you seem to be a dedicated person! You could be in a much worse situation. Plus, if you keep putting yourself down, and deleting your confidence. That is when you become invisible to others and that is the last thing you want to do. People are attracted to confident people who like themselves and are proud of who they are. There is no such thing as perfection. We can try to run after it all our lives or we can realize that although we have things we aren't happy about in ourselves we also have strong points and at least we are healthy, alive and with great potential in front of ourselves.
I right now am doing treatment for my social fears and anxieties. I have a fear of talking to anyone, huge anxiety, fear of leaving the house, depression...And I'm managing through it! Surprisingly so. Like my psychologist says, look ahead. What I mean is, study, go happily to college and forget about High School like most of us do. You will be fine. I'm sure of it. heart
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Posted: Sat Mar 30, 2013 12:51 am
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I'm in almost the exact same boat. I'm 21, never dated anyone, never kissed anyone either unless you count friends during truth or dare....and one friend when she was drunk and excited. I don't make friends easy because I don't trust easy. things can be rough and it can come and go, people around you not being there and/or always in a relationship when you want one may not be exactly helpful either. start by seeing people who have the same interests, you would be AMAZED how many groups and clubs are on a college campus. there is literally something there for everyone. you go there and people who are more open will come up and talk to you just for being there, that helps with making friends. for now, don't worry about dating or kissing, boys or girls, any of that. just enjoy your last days in high school and look forward to starting college and thinking about the things you'll learn and the different people you'll meet. getting into a relationship isn't the one thing you should focus on, there's nothing wrong with waiting until you both find the person you want to date and you're actually ready for that. it's better to wait and be ready for it truly and honestly than rushing into it just to keep from feeling lonely and to say that you're in a relationship. believe me, I've met a lot of people who say they wish that they waited rather than rushing in. just pace yourself, be patient, you'll find a relationship
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Posted: Wed Apr 03, 2013 6:11 am
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Posted: Thu Apr 04, 2013 5:41 am
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Posted: Sun Apr 28, 2013 5:19 pm
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