weight issue

[Kitalpha Hart]

your body. you wear what you want, especially since i'm guessing you're over sixteen.
don't let her dictate what you wear
fun fact: if you wear clothes that fit, you look thinner than if you wear baggy clothes. so i say wear nice clothes and not look like Danny Richmond!
that's a kid who was in our school, he graduated a couple of years ago. we joked that he killed the gas mileage of the bus
not nice, i know, but he didn't seem to mind
but in all seriousness, don't listen to your mom. she's just trying to kill your self-esteem

 

[Kitalpha Hart]

Rubai Sora

Kitalpha Hart

your body. you wear what you want, especially since i'm guessing you're over sixteen.
don't let her dictate what you wear
fun fact: if you wear clothes that fit, you look thinner than if you wear baggy clothes. so i say wear nice clothes and not look like Danny Richmond!
that's a kid who was in our school, he graduated a couple of years ago. we joked that he killed the gas mileage of the bus
not nice, i know, but he didn't seem to mind
but in all seriousness, don't listen to your mom. she's just trying to kill your self-esteem

Yeah, I'm 23. The thing with the shirt is that it's really forms to my contours, so it really shows my fat. She has actually offered to modify it so it wouldn't be so form-fitting. My dad says I look better when I dress more like a girl, but with my mom wanting me to wear baggier clothing, it's hard to look feminine.

It's hard to imagine that she's doing it on purpose. I tell her to lay off it, and she says that what she is saying is true.

Post style by PhallenPixie

so tell her that it's your body
and before you modify it, figure out where you want it modified and how~
my sister is chunky and short, but she manages to find clothes that look good on her
to be honest, there are things that look better on her than on me (tall and scrawny here)

 

[Kitalpha Hart]

Rubai Sora

Kitalpha Hart

so tell her that it's your body
and before you modify it, figure out where you want it modified and how~
my sister is chunky and short, but she manages to find clothes that look good on her
to be honest, there are things that look better on her than on me (tall and scrawny here)

I don't want to modify the shirt. I like it the way it is. I only want my shirts modified if they don't fit.

Post style by PhallenPixie

your shirt, your decision. if you want it modified, do so. if you don't, then leave it. that's up to you, not your mom
of course, she might still think that you're six and need help getting dressed @.@
my mom still thinks that i love school (i think it's a waste of time now, but i used to love it in elementary school) and can't understand why my grade varies, but is still a far cry from the top ten

 

[Intoxikace]

I think that she is just concerned about your weight and feels like if she points it out enough you will be determined to lose it.
That is not the right way for her to be going about it at all.. everyone knows that it's unhealthy to be overweight, you'd have to be an idiot to think that's healthy! You even said in your post that you would like to lose weight.

You just need to let her know that you know that you are overweight, and her pointing it out to you isn't going to help the pounds melt right off.
If anything it's stressful which is just going to not keep you motivated to eat healthy and exercise.

I don't think it's right. I can understand her being concerned about your weight/health, but calling you fat and disgusting? That's not right.
You are an adult, you can make your own choices about your body and what you decide to wear.  

[HimeFiveCents]

Wow! Was your mom fat as a girl? Or had weight issues herself? It really sounds like she's taking it way more personal than she should! I mean right its your body! If you don't feel so terrible about it why is it that she feels she needs to make you? Hm, ask her that! Really ask her "Mom, what do you get out of trying to make me feel like crap all the time?" Then if she says somethng like I'm only telling the truth be like "well, the truth is its really none of your business!" Ask why its so important that YOU be skinny. Maybe she sees herself in you and wanted to be skinny so she's basically going off on herself and her "failures" or maybe someone put it in her head skinny is the thing and if your not that you're disgusting. Maybe a big person was mean to her!? Could be some crazy thing! But it really sounds like she's got some issues there with image and its her deal that she's taking out on you because she can.  

[Kitalpha Hart]

Rubai Sora

Kitalpha Hart

your shirt, your decision. if you want it modified, do so. if you don't, then leave it. that's up to you, not your mom
of course, she might still think that you're six and need help getting dressed @.@
my mom still thinks that i love school (i think it's a waste of time now, but i used to love it in elementary school) and can't understand why my grade varies, but is still a far cry from the top ten

That's the problem with parents. When it's covenant for them, they want you to be more adult. Otherwise, they treat you like a kid!

Post style by PhallenPixie

i know. and then they get grandchildren and hopefully get off your back to spoil them~  

[I Love Bad Puns]

Y'know, you should just do what you wanna do, wear what you wanna wear, and just be happy. Don't care about what anyone says because in the end, you are just you. What's the point in changing yourself for the approval of others if it means you can't just be you? Stay strong, love. heart  

[HimeFiveCents]

Rubai Sora

Ahhh, so she grew up in an area where fat people basically weren't present. That actually explains a lot! There were no fatness. No over indulging. Everything was worked for and living was hard. Now she's in an area where its all spoils! Everything is dispensable. Wouldn't that kind of difference mess with your mentality? Maybe she was taught you only take what you absolutely need and anything else is unacceptable, maybe she got punished for eating more or something and got the idea early on that overeating is bad/disgusting. Therefor fat people disgusting. Since she can't control her husband or your cousins she's going after you. She's still not right. But at least there's a little insight into why she's says such cruel things.