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Posted: Tue Sep 04, 2012 2:32 am
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Posted: Wed Sep 19, 2012 7:23 am
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While I do agree that the child needs to apologise for themselves, I often find that as a parent, it's only polite to apologise myself first, as often getting my child to the point where she understands what she has done wrong takes a little time. Apologising myself first tells the other person that I acknowledge that what she did was wrong, and that it will be dealt with. However, it may take a few minutes until she apologises herself, and it's poor manners to make that person wait. Especially if you're at the park or something, and the other people may leave by the time my daughter understands, or passing each other in the street.
I'm not the kind of parent that will see my child do something wrong, bark "SAY SORRY!" at her, and then just have her mutter some insincere "sorry". (I see other parents do that a LOT.) That's not good enough. Sorry is just a word. She must understand that what she did was wrong, understand why it was wrong, and then try to make up for it.
That's why we use "make it right" as one of our key phrases.
For example, if she's playing with her friends and she snatches a toy. I would remind her that we don't snatch, and if she continues to not share/doesn't apologise, I will say "sorry Pandora, just give us a minute." Then I would take my daughter aside, talk about why it's important to share nicely and not snatch, and how that makes our friends feel. Once she understands that, I go for "So what can we do to make it right?" And then let her come up with a way to "make it right" with her friend- such as saying sorry (and at this point it would be sincere), and giving her friend a hug, or showing her friend one of her other favourite toys etc.
It is a longer way of going about it than just demanding that she say sorry for herself right away, but it's very important to me that her apologies are sincere.
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Posted: Thu Sep 20, 2012 9:56 am
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Posted: Mon Oct 08, 2012 8:59 pm
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Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2012 2:24 pm
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