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 Posted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 9:57 pm
One of the things I want most in my life is to have children. My fiance and I are getting married in May. My question to you all is, what age is the best to have children? We're both twenty one and I want to have one not long after we get married and he doesn't want one for awhile (granted he has two children already (his son was put up for adoption by the mom and the mom of his daughter won't let him see her)).
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Posted: Sat Feb 04, 2006 8:37 am
So many people have children when they aren't ready.
I want to a wait awhile. I'm 21 now, and I want to get done with school and then have a career for awhile before having kids.
Although my father told me there is no convient time to have kids.
Plus I am a big supporter of Adoption. I think more people should adopt. Why bring more people into an already crowded world, why not take care of the ones already here you know?
Anyways, that's my thoughts.
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Posted: Sat Feb 04, 2006 12:02 pm
Too young and you might not be ready...too old and you miss out...I'd say 25-35 is a good range as when said child is, say...10 and ready for boy/girl scouts(sports, etc...) you'll be 35-45 and still active enough to participate in said activities. At 15 you'll be 40-50 but that's okay because who wants a parent of any age running around with them and their friends? 'Tis only my opinion, of course. I believe national polls (U.S.) place the age around 20-30...I believe Mexico is lower(a couple friends of mine from Mexico were married at 14 and 15) and Russia has a higher age, but I can't find that site right now so take those as intelligent guesses.
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Posted: Sat Feb 04, 2006 1:33 pm
coriander18 So many people have children when they aren't ready. I want to a wait awhile. I'm 21 now, and I want to get done with school and then have a career for awhile before having kids. Although my father told me there is no convient time to have kids. Plus I am a big supporter of Adoption. I think more people should adopt. Why bring more people into an already crowded world, why not take care of the ones already here you know? Anyways, that's my thoughts.
Adoption is great and all, but I want a child of my own, my own blood. I want my genes (however messed up they are) to be passed along. The only way I'd adopt is if I couldn't have children.
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Posted: Sat Feb 04, 2006 4:23 pm
I'd say wait a few years. 27 would be my minimum age to have kids if I were you.
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Posted: Sat Feb 04, 2006 6:01 pm
Six years is an awfully long time.
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Posted: Tue Feb 07, 2006 3:52 pm
Yeah, waiting sucks. My girlfriend and I want to have at least a couple of 2.0s running around, but she wants to finish school and I want to get my B.Sc (CS) and save enough money to get away with going back for my Master's. That's not going to be for at least 5 years. Ideally I'd like to be working on said degree and maybe have a little house before the kids show up. On the other hand, I'd love to get shaken awake by a luke or liz 2.0 tomorrow morning wanting their breakfast cereal or somesuch. I guess it's not so much a set age as if you feel you can easily support, or at least support without superhuman effort, the children. That's just my two bent pennies.
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Posted: Wed Feb 08, 2006 3:05 pm
ok i am 23 i have giving birth 3 times, 2 of which were mine. dnt get me wrong i would gladly do it all over again. my boys are my life... granted you and your fiance are 21 well first how long have you been together, do you trust him with your life,would you do anything for him with out considering the price you would have to pay???? part of the reason your fiance may not want kids for a while is cause he could be afraid that you might do the same thing that his lil girl's momma did... for instance mky husband has 6 children only 2 of which he is aloud to see. you should take everything into consideration before you decide. then you need to sit down and talk it over with him. remember though you should live a lil and get to know life before you jump in. i would say about 25 to 30.
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Posted: Fri Mar 10, 2006 10:35 pm
I'm waiting until I don't have to worry about my studies and can concentrate and keeping a parasite in my belly healthy for nine months.
My suggestion is (or my mom's anyway) is that when you do have them, have them all fairly close together. It may be harder at first, but then they will be able to bond more when they are older.
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Posted: Wed Mar 15, 2006 4:13 pm
It might sound crazy, but if I were you I would wait until I was about 30. That way you get to enjoy your life WITHOUT kids for a while, and then you will have your kids when you're a little more stable in your life.
My mom waited over 10 years to have kids.
I don't actually plan to have kids myself, so you're not getting this advise from the BEST source, maybe but... there it is, for what it's worth.
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Posted: Wed Mar 15, 2006 4:16 pm
Janus Walcott I'd say wait a few years. 27 would be my minimum age to have kids if I were you. I agree.
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Posted: Fri Mar 17, 2006 6:36 am
in MY opinion the best time is when your about 25-27 you dont wanna wait toooo long because then it will be VERY hard to get pregnant..OH and CONGRATS!
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Posted: Sun Mar 19, 2006 9:00 am
It's hard to say what age...I personally don't want children. But when I did I wanted them early, like 20. But all I can say is when your BOTH ready, not just when you are.
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Posted: Tue Mar 21, 2006 4:37 pm
I have a brother in law who thought that he wanted to wait to have kids, and then my sister got pregnant. Last time I talked to him he said he was really glad that it happened the way that it did. That he didn't end up being allowed to wait. Had he done so he probably never would have ended up having any at all.
It's easier to relate to your kids when you're younger, but then you also want to be mature enough that you know what you're doing for them is the right thing. You also need to make sure that when the time is right that you are able to support them financially AND emotionally. Children are very taxing in both ways. In the end it's all up to you.
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Posted: Thu Apr 06, 2006 1:19 am
as you can see at the siggy i'm childfree as in i don't want to be a mother ever. the whole never ending reproductive cycle freaks me out. i don't like this thing- birth, go to school, marry, raise kids, die, repeat.
people should really put [more] thought into childbearing enstead of thinking about the stereotype kodak moments with children.
and atleast concider the thought of not bearing children at all so you can make really sure of yourselves
if you really want kids- wait until you are older like atleast 30. adopt, why dose it have to be your genes when theres thousands of waiting in adoption centers. go enjoy life while your still young, don't end it so quikly. a baby really dose change everything.
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