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 Posted: Fri Aug 27, 2010 3:06 pm
You see, I have a very stable and healthy long distance relationship with a very wonderful and sweet man! We've been going out for almost 10 months, and we're very happy together. He's everyone I've ever wanted in a man, and I love him very very much!
The thing is that yesterday, I told him that I might have an interview for a part time job! He knows that I've been concerned about getting one, since I need to pay for college after JC.
However, when I told him, instead of being happy for me like I thought, he wasn't! His voice dropped and he kinda seemed sad about it! He kept asking me over and over if I was still going to have time to spend with him, to which I kept answering yes.
It would be one thing if I was getting a full time job! But I'm only getting a part time job, and he knows I need the money! Right now, I just don't know what to think...
I mean, does he want me to not get a job? Does he have attachment issues? I mean, I want to marry him someday, but if he want's me to spend the rest of my life as a housewife despite what I may want, just so I'll always have free time, then I'm just not sure! I doubt that's the case, but it sure feels like it!!!
I'm no where ready to break up with him (I mean, it's no where NEAR that serious)!!! But I just need to know... Should I bring it up with him, or am I just over reacting?
(P.S. Please don't leak this out to the regular forums! He has an account on here, and I don't want him to get the wrong idea! He's very sensitive and I don't want to scare him! Thanks!)
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Posted: Fri Aug 27, 2010 3:38 pm
[~+~] Hm.
I'd say don't bring it up unless it becomes a real issue when you actually get a part time job.
I mean, to be fair, if you guys see each other constantly, it would be something to adjust to, but it should be manageable for anyone, and as you said, if he can't cope with you having a part time job, goodness knows what he'll be like if you ever got a full time one. xD;
He's probably just worried you guys will drift apart or something. I'd stay with it, so if you get one, you can see if he can adjust, but if it becomes something of an issue, i'd bring it up with him.
How often do you see each other, if you don't mind me asking?
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Posted: Wed Sep 01, 2010 1:38 pm
Yes I agree with the above post. No need to bring it up. Just now that you have a job, prove to him that you'll still have time for him.
Thinking suddenly that he's going to force you into house-wife bondage when (assuming you will) get married, isnt really rational haha. I think he's just a little worried about change right now and he's getting ahead of himself.
So worry not! I'm sure he'll grow used to it and see that he was silly to think you'd not have time for him anymore
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Posted: Sun Sep 05, 2010 9:32 am
 Tell him that unless he wants to pay your tuition bills he doesn't have a choice. Guys hate change, right now he is in shock, in his mind he is thinking that you will move on and find someone else. This is why he is bombarding you with questions and being clingy. Don't give in, get your job and make time for him and time for yourself. When he sees that you are still making an effort to be with him, he should settle down.
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