I appoint *you* Secretary of Cheese, and
Okay, this may be long, so I'm warning you now.
When Derek and I first met, we hung out with a lot of guys, there were 12 of us, and only Tiffany and I were girls. So there were ten guys.
All ten of these guys have had a thing for me and Derek was the only one that got anywhere.
Just to list what happened:
Alex
slept next to me one night at our Halloween party just so he could grab my a**, using the excuse "It was warm".
Steven
took Tiffany and I out shopping one day because we needed stuff for school, on the way back, he started touching me, he would just not keep his hand off my leg, then At the party mentioned above, he tried to get me to sleep next to him. He also admitted that he did like me.
Danny
asked me out. That's all there is to it. I declined.
Markus
would always flirt with me. Always. Even when I tried not to, he would anyway.
Jonas,
Markus's brother, would also flirt with me any chance he got.
The others would just talk about how I had a nice a** and whatnot. Really degrading.
When Derek and I started going out, everyone's opinions of me seemed to change, they started telling me things like I was ruining Derek's life because his marks fell a little at the time we started going out (he started taking a history class at that time, he cannot do history and that's what brought his mark down). They blamed me for everything he did wrong, like he could never have done wrong on his own.
They all started to get really rude with me and even when Derek and I went through a pregnancy scare, they found out and blamed it all on me, like I could make a baby without Derek's help. They didn't believe Tiffany when she let it slip that I was a virgin before Derek and I did anything (which I was and it hurt that they didn't believe I was).
We ended up getting into an argument over facebook and Markus blamed me for Tiffany breaking up with him. Tiffany told him time and time again that it had nothing to do with me, but he still found some way to blame it on me and has refused to speak to me ever since.
And in a way, yeah, it was because of me she broke up with him. It was because of the way he was treating her best friend for no reason that she didn't want to be with him.
In the end of the argument, they knew I was right and they were losing it, but to get the last word, Steven had the nerve to post this on my facebook profile:
"If you ask me, you're the biggest mistake Derek has ever made."
How can I be his biggest mistake when he had sex with some random girl a few years before, which rewarded me by giving me an STD that has rendered me unable to get pregnant until I get surgery?
The point of this rant was, Derek still hangs out with these guys and it really upsets me and he doesn't seem to get why. He said what they've said about me has nothing to do with him and that he shouldn't have to say anything to them.
I have no problem with him hanging out with people, I'd like it if he got out more, I just really hate it when he's with those guys and when he talks about them, expecting me to not feel hurt about the things they've said.
In the end, these people who I thought were my friends seemed to think that just because I was pretty, I was a slut.
(I'm going to admit it, I know I'm pretty, but it's called confidence and I believe every girl should simply know that she is pretty. There is nothing wrong with that.)
Is there anyway I can get this across to him?
Or am I in the wrong and shouldn't be upset with him?
*you* Keeper of the Lint.