Well.
I am currently in a long distant relationship with a person nearly 4000 miles away. (im in Washington, he is in Florida). I havent been technically dating him until earlier this month, but i've been in the weird stage between being just friends and a couple for a few months. That stage where you both like each other very much, and know that you want to be with the, but time is needed to test things out.
Anyways.
We had a serious conversation last night about our relationship. I dont want to push him or whatever, cause it makes him angry, but I want to get to know his family, and him to know mine. Or even if his parents knew About me. I guess thats where our problem lies.
He is afraid to tell his parents he is dating a girl he has met online.
Why?
Because his ex girl friend (its been well over a year) he met online, not a long distance relationship by any means, but that relationship was hell on him. (one of the reasons I had to wait very patiently for him to ask me out.) His mother is now very taboo on the thought of him dating another girl he met online.
So i am kept a secret from his friends and family.
Another problem is, apparently his mom has a girl picked out who she thinks he should be with, and he doesn't want to break his moms heart by completely killing the idea, and also going against her LDR policy.
I really wanna be able to visit him. And with things how they are, I never will, or if I do, all hell is going to break loose.
Another problem with this is a friend (that will remain anomonous)
I have a weird bond with this friend, who yes is a guy. When me and my boy friend were on the phone I stopped texting him, and he got really on edge. Jealous. Informed me I was abandoning him to be with my boy friend (whome still doesnt know that im dating him because i dont wanna lose a friend)
So. I guess what I need advice on is;
How do I help convince him that he should tell his friends and family about me?
Whats a good way to fill the shoes of the girl his mom wants him to be with?
How do I deal with his mother once she does find out he is going behind her back to date someone in a way she is strictly against?
What should I do about my friends jealousy?
And How do I break the news to the friend without making things to weird and rocky between us?
I am currently in a long distant relationship with a person nearly 4000 miles away. (im in Washington, he is in Florida). I havent been technically dating him until earlier this month, but i've been in the weird stage between being just friends and a couple for a few months. That stage where you both like each other very much, and know that you want to be with the, but time is needed to test things out.
Anyways.
We had a serious conversation last night about our relationship. I dont want to push him or whatever, cause it makes him angry, but I want to get to know his family, and him to know mine. Or even if his parents knew About me. I guess thats where our problem lies.
He is afraid to tell his parents he is dating a girl he has met online.
Why?
Because his ex girl friend (its been well over a year) he met online, not a long distance relationship by any means, but that relationship was hell on him. (one of the reasons I had to wait very patiently for him to ask me out.) His mother is now very taboo on the thought of him dating another girl he met online.
So i am kept a secret from his friends and family.
Another problem is, apparently his mom has a girl picked out who she thinks he should be with, and he doesn't want to break his moms heart by completely killing the idea, and also going against her LDR policy.
I really wanna be able to visit him. And with things how they are, I never will, or if I do, all hell is going to break loose.
Another problem with this is a friend (that will remain anomonous)
I have a weird bond with this friend, who yes is a guy. When me and my boy friend were on the phone I stopped texting him, and he got really on edge. Jealous. Informed me I was abandoning him to be with my boy friend (whome still doesnt know that im dating him because i dont wanna lose a friend)
So. I guess what I need advice on is;
How do I help convince him that he should tell his friends and family about me?
Whats a good way to fill the shoes of the girl his mom wants him to be with?
How do I deal with his mother once she does find out he is going behind her back to date someone in a way she is strictly against?
What should I do about my friends jealousy?
And How do I break the news to the friend without making things to weird and rocky between us?