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Posted: Wed Jan 20, 2010 7:28 pm
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Posted: Thu Jan 21, 2010 2:17 am
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Posted: Thu Jan 21, 2010 4:48 am
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Posted: Thu Jan 21, 2010 6:51 am
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Posted: Thu Jan 21, 2010 6:53 am
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Posted: Thu Jan 21, 2010 6:55 am
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Hester Peche That's a lot of stuff...that I do not agree with in the slightest. And dating is not about marriage. It's about finding some one you can spend time with. It's getting to know people. That does not mean marriage. I don't think you realize that love and relationships are complicated and do not always go hand in hand. You can have lust without love, you can have love without lust. Being a little lusty isn't going to make you a whore...it's perfectly natural. And sleeping with someone, is just as important as dating. You can be emotionally compatible without being physically compatible. And a lover is someone whom you "LOVE", a ******** is someone who is there when you don't want to sleep alone. As for your ideas on abusive relationships it's much more complex than that and incredibly naive and narrow-minded. Relationships are complex, because people are complex. And blaming the person being abused is just wrong, it's never their fault that they landed themselves in that sort of situation. You would know that if you knew anything about relationships. And it's quite obvious that you are young--or at least naive and that you have never been in love. Because a person typically says "I love you" when they feel it is appropriate. And that could be one day or even one year into a relationship. I find your "advice" very insular and bigoted, if you are going to talk about love and relationships you should explore all possibilities. You have no right to judge how other people act in their relationships.
You know..You can just say you don't agree with me any why...You don't have to say hurtful rude things just to prove your point...Like I can just say 'how would you really know? if you were not so ******** stupid you would see that maybe what you believe might not be always right'...And I have been in love....Twice. But no I will not go around and explore things with guys and see what works..TO ME that foolish...
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Posted: Thu Jan 21, 2010 7:23 am
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Posted: Thu Jan 21, 2010 9:16 am
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Posted: Thu Jan 21, 2010 1:18 pm
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Posted: Thu Jan 21, 2010 2:28 pm
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Hester Peche I did tell you that I disagreed and why. I realize that my post may have been a tad harsh, but what you saidd rubbed me the wrong way--particularly the part about abusive relationships. You wouldn't be saying things like "it's all the victim's fault" if you've had to deal with victims of abuse. I found it very irksome that you would even say something like that, since I have delt with women who have been abused, working at a battered women's shelter. Also, I wasn't suggesting people go out and whore around, I was saying that one should keep their mind open and not limit themselves in a relationship. And if you can't take people's comments and criticism with respect and grace then maybe you shouldn't post because that's what you're going to get.
Like I have said..I have..I had a boy friend who said I looked like crap all the time when i did my best to dress nice..He also hit me a few times and I choose to stay with him just the same..that would not be my fault at all.?
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Posted: Thu Jan 21, 2010 3:07 pm
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Posted: Thu Jan 21, 2010 3:10 pm
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Winter Of Whispers Hester Peche I did tell you that I disagreed and why. I realize that my post may have been a tad harsh, but what you saidd rubbed me the wrong way--particularly the part about abusive relationships. You wouldn't be saying things like "it's all the victim's fault" if you've had to deal with victims of abuse. I found it very irksome that you would even say something like that, since I have delt with women who have been abused, working at a battered women's shelter. Also, I wasn't suggesting people go out and whore around, I was saying that one should keep their mind open and not limit themselves in a relationship. And if you can't take people's comments and criticism with respect and grace then maybe you shouldn't post because that's what you're going to get. Like I have said..I have..I had a boy friend who said I looked like crap all the time when i did my best to dress nice..He also hit me a few times and I choose to stay with him just the same..that would not be my fault at all.?
Many victims stay with the abuser in fear that he/she would go after them and hurt them again. I don't know if that's your reason behind staying with him, but if it is then no, it would not be your fault.
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Posted: Thu Jan 21, 2010 3:24 pm
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Posted: Thu Jan 21, 2010 3:55 pm
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Posted: Thu Jan 21, 2010 3:58 pm
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