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Posted: Wed Dec 02, 2009 4:02 pm
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To start off; I'll explain the chain of events that led me to asking for advice.
Well; to start off with; I was dating my boyfriend (Who is now my ex) For three and a half years. Since my freshman year in highschool. We started off as best friends; and he had a girlfriend when we were friends. One day he got dumped by her; in a dear John letter. He was so upset; so I was there for him; like a friend would be. One thing led to another; and we ended up starting to date.
Then he changed.
He would make sexually related jokes, ask "Jokingly" if I wanted to get "Knocked up", and touch me against my will where I did NOT want to be touched. Things went downhill even worse. He would start stopping calling me; never texted me, and he was always "at a friend's house". That's not the worst part though.
He expected me to stay pure to him; which I did! I didn't even THINK of dating anyone else while I was with him, and then one day; he came over and said we needed to talk. I figured it was important; and I knew the horrid beginning of the conversation with those four words: "We need to talk".
Honest to say; I wanted to dump him, because at this point; I had a feeling he was sneaking out and having sex with another girl. It wasn't an assumption either; because he admitted to it, and said he'd been having sex with her for three weeks before he dumped me!
Anyway; a few months passed and I hadn't heard from him. Turns out; the week before he dumped me; he hooked up with YET ANOTHER girl. At this point I was p/o'd. I was pure, i kept my purity promise; I even lost some friends over him.
He called me a few weeks ago; and I was literally crying on his shoulder; over the whole stress of the thing. I told him I needed him, I would do anything for thngs to go back to the way they were before we broke up. And then he said the most horrible thing Ive heard out of his mouth. He said; "Well if things between my girlfriend and I don't work out; you know I'll be coming back to you."
I wanted to slap him and say: "I'M not a playtoy! I'm not just here for you when you're bored of your girlfriend! I AM NOT the girl you can dump at the drop of a dime, to have sex with another! You are disgusting!"
But I didn't...
I seriously wish now that I had; because he's gone so downhill since we broke up. He started smoking again, he's drinking again, he's speeding and drunk all the time; and he even "Joked" about smoking weed! I AM SERIOUSLY worried!
I mean I know I shouldn't be since it's not my problem anymore but I don't know what to do! Any suggestions on how I can help him? Or get him out of my life completely? I'm SICK of being used....
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Posted: Wed Dec 02, 2009 5:10 pm
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Posted: Wed Dec 02, 2009 5:18 pm
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Posted: Wed Dec 02, 2009 6:10 pm
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Posted: Wed Dec 02, 2009 6:19 pm
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Posted: Wed Dec 02, 2009 7:05 pm
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Posted: Wed Dec 02, 2009 9:18 pm
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Posted: Wed Dec 02, 2009 11:57 pm
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Posted: Thu Dec 03, 2009 12:11 am
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Posted: Thu Dec 03, 2009 9:11 am
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Posted: Thu Dec 03, 2009 9:23 am
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Posted: Fri Dec 04, 2009 7:47 am
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Ah, I remember that situation. And my best advice:
Get a good absorbent pillow. Cry every bit of your heart into it. And when he comes around again, don't have any tears left for him. You are a beautiful, wonderful girl, and if he can't see that, he doesn't deserve you. Boys are, on average, jerks. And at your age, you really don't need to be settling for one who won't do good for you.
So walk away, hold your head up high, and find some boy who worships the ground that you walk on. You deserve it. <3
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Posted: Fri Dec 04, 2009 8:50 am
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Sinful Nana Ah, I remember that situation. And my best advice: Get a good absorbent pillow. Cry every bit of your heart into it. And when he comes around again, don't have any tears left for him. You are a beautiful, wonderful girl, and if he can't see that, he doesn't deserve you. Boys are, on average, jerks. And at your age, you really don't need to be settling for one who won't do good for you. So walk away, hold your head up high, and find some boy who worships the ground that you walk on. You deserve it. <3
I have to agree.
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Posted: Fri Dec 04, 2009 6:05 pm
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Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 10:44 pm
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