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That I cannot wrap my brains around. Just does not understand.
A shooting-incident happening in a vocational school in Finland.
What an earth is that shooter thinking??

I do not myself have only happy school memories, I was bullied and teased.
Today I just thank myself being stronger than those bullies.

WTF is going on in schools? Last year there was same kind of incident in Jokela.

I don't have happy school memories either Especially once I came out as being a lesbian. I wouldn't have shot anyone, but I'm not surprised that some kids just can't handle the pain and pressure of being an outcast. I don't condone that kind of behavior, but I can sort of understand why.

Both my spouse and I have not-so-fond memories of school. As a matter of fact, we both fit the bill of teens who are said to be more likely to shoot up a school. However, neither of us did. It takes a certain mindset to actually take that extra step and kill people.

I don't necessarily blame video games, music, and TV/movies like a lot of people since I listened to some of the same music, watched some of the same things, and played some of the same video games that are said to lead to "violent behavior", however, I myself am rather non-violent. I would not doubt that someone who has trouble discerning media from real life would end up violent from these things, though.

I do not blame the media for making these things because it is their right and freedom to do so. If parents are concerned that their children would have behavioral issues because of them, then perhaps they should sit down with their children and teach them the difference between media and real life instead of assuming that they will know or assuming the schools or government will do something about it for them.

I actually grew up watching horror movies {although, horror movies then weren't nearly as bad as today's horror movies stare } . My parents let me watch rated R movies since I was in elementary school. They figured as long as they taught me not to repeat or emulate what it was I saw, then it didn't matter at what age I watched it, though they still would not let me watch anything too sexual or gruesome and they would always watch questionable movies first to evaluate whether it would be okay for me to see it.

It seems some parents these days have very little idea as to what is going on in the lives of their kids. Because in a lot of places it requires both parents to be working, kids will spend more time being raised by day care and public schooling than their own parents. Parents are often "too busy" to get involved with their children. Sometimes they will buy them music and video games that the child says they like without even knowing what it really is, and then blame the company or artist that produced it when it "corrupts" their child. They put warning labels on that stuff for a reason gonk

My spouse and I theorize that it's because of parents gradually being more negligent or lenient that children are becoming sexual and/or violent at younger ages. A parent will say to themselves "I'm not going to be as hard on my kids as my parents were on me" and sometimes this is with good reason, however, sometimes this can also lead to a lack of discipline, depending on how much they "lighten up".

Most blame the media, but I know from my own childhood that watching violent movies and playing violent video games doesn't automatically make you a violent person. As long as one can distinguish between media and real life, then there should not be much of a problem, and kids can make this distinction at younger ages than most give them credit for.

By the way, I did not mean to offend any parents. I am not saying that all parents are like that, but I have seen some who are stare The TV is not a babysitter gonk

I think it's combination of a lot of things. My parents were brought up by parents that worked all the time and forced their children to be independent people from a young age. They took suffering to be a test a strength and a lesson to just keep going with the flow.

Today, parents are obsessed with giving their kids everything they themselves never had, and I feel that in doing so, they are making them more dependent. My parents are from Spain, and from the beginning, they've worked and always made it clear that if I wanted something, I had to get it myself. Maybe it's just me, but because I always made things happen for myself as a kid, I know now that if my life sucks, it's because of choices I've made...and likewise, other choices and actions will make it suck less.

Kids today keep detached and helpless. The only way to get out is with a bang. People blame video games and movies being violent, but a generation ago, there was a real war going on. I dont think its exposure to violence. I think the problem is the way society treats their young people.

I think it is the aspect of the "individual" mentality. The advent of television has simply made us different people. Today, humans are capable of overcoming/understanding the reason they didn't have an easy life, but they don't. It's easier to put up walls and use technology to drown it out than actually deal. Someone who was solitary back then couldn't watch a violent film, or play video games; things that don't require human thought, emotion. They had do something; reading, writing, creating, walking, singing; most singular activities required some sort human emotion. Essentially, they have learned to deal by distraction, which is hardly dealing at all.

All things tend toward decay. Things have been going downward since THE DEPRESSION in the 30s. The fact that it is getting worse now is just a matter of course. The world needs new ideas and thinkers to unite us under new banners and bring people in a new direction as the world changes.

Aye. And this is why I disagree when people dismiss the fact that modern mass media played a role in all this. The issue with parents is that they are now given the alternative of having the telly/video games/etc. babysitting their children. Previously, they had absolutely no choice. They must tend to their children. And likewise, the children must entertain themselves by interaction with other humans or by creative expression.

The advent of modern mass media isn't the full cause of the violence, of course. However, has made those who are more vulnerable to violent tendencies to actually act on it. The rest of us who are normal have no problems with watching gory movies, playing violent video games, etc. Most of us have the moral values and the emotional self-control not to carry out those fantasies in real life.

It's really sad but I have to agree that this isnt a new problem at all. The capacity for violence has always been there. Now it seems more like accessibility of weapons and the will to act are both there as well.