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Posted: Wed Feb 13, 2008 3:56 pm
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Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 12:26 pm
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 10:11 am
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Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2008 6:51 pm
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I know where you are coming from on this one.
I have this nack for getting into relationships with people who are ill. I just have such an interest in helping people that it crosses over into all aspects of my life. Time and again I have become involved with these people with the hopes of helping them. Thus far it has only ended in a lasting relationship only once. This guy has a plethora of things wrong with him, its a wonder he hasn't just shrivaled up and died yet! What kept this relationship going was the establishment of certain rules. The first rule was that I would never give up on him, no matter what. This has also been deeply rooted in my sense of pride and honor. I refuse to abandon him because it would mean that I conceded defeat. I would be a failure and a coward for just leaving. I've invested SO BLOODY MUCH into it that I just can't allow myself to just leave. I've been through hell many times with that relationship and I am proud to say I am the only person he knows, other than his own father, that hasn't abandoned him. We still have our problems, just like anyone else, but I refuse to allow them to dismantle what we've built. You said that depression got in the way of your relationships. I must admit that it is a huge problem and it does make the person seem a little selfish after a while. I aknowlege this, but at this time I also want to say that this depression has somehow made our relationship stonger. He gets so depressed at times that he convinces himself that he isn't worthy of me, even to the point where he tries to drive me away. I must say that now he is finally convinced after these five years that I'm not going anywhere. So at least thats not an issue anymore, but there will always be issues until he is cured. These insecurities are hard to deal with, but when you learn to overcome them it becomes all worth while. My point is that when you learn how to get around the depression and learn how to deal with people correctly, the relationship will flourish beyond anything it would have before hand. I admit that he isn't totally cured, but with everything that I learn to get around our relationship becomes that much more bliss. Not to mention we come to love each other even more! So now I can only imagine how awesome it will be when we get past all his illnesses and issues!
Stick it out and it will pay off, and for extra help you could always study up on psychology and how to interact with people. Certain books really made the difference for me when I read them and picked up a few key things.
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