Chat Thread: Chopsticks and teacups

[Brass Bell Doll]

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I need some advice from an outside standpoint and I apologize if this is not in the right place. I will move it if need be.

So, a little background: I'm engaged to a wonderful man who I love with my entire being and he has three wonderful girls from a previous marriage. They live with their mother but they stay over often.

I am a serious BTW Seeker and outside of my seeking I do some basic generic eclectic witchcraft pretty often, for lack of a better way of phrasing it. Or at least I did before I moved in with my fiancée. I do not know people in my area as I have recently moved and I have finally settled into the area with a wonderful job that I love waking up and going to everyday (after being unemployed for 7 months).

Now, this all sounds absolutely wonderful and I feel fortunate and grateful. However, his ex-wife is extremely bigoted towards 'witchcraft' and 'witches'. The extent of her fear extends so far that she prevents her children from watching or reading Harry Potter, anything of the supernatural or occult, no Wizard of Oz, absolutely no fantasy books of any kind, nothing. She does not want them exposed to any of that in any way.

Because of this, I have retreated so far in my practice that I am not comfortable talking about it or doing anything in my own household. He feels like I am shutting him out of this part of my life and I agree with him in that I am. Yet, my fear is as such: I am afraid of being outted as a witch to his ex-wife. His eldest is extremely shrewd and I will admit, I have let some things accidentally slip.

I am afraid that if she finds out she will fight to have sole custody of the children and we will never see them again. However, my fear has caused me to shut my fiancée out of my practice and it is causing a slight friction that I am unsure of how to resolve.

I feel as though I am at an impasse. Some advice would be wonderful. Thank you.

Is there a way you might be able to fully manifest a spiritual path that isn't couched in witchcraft for you to participate with your family in, while leaving your Wiccan Seeking to fulfill your desire for witchcraft to be part of your life?  

[FlySammyJ]

Illiezeulette

I have had a supermassive ginormous ******** revelation.

I am no longer angry or hurt. I feel so secure...so natural. Holy awesome. I take back anything I said about him that was overly bad. Yeah, there were mistakes, but overall I had NO idea where he was coming from.

Now I do.

Wow...wow.

Now I wonder...why do we shove each other into pigeon holes when it comes to defining our relationships? Now I have such a fluid approach, and I can be satisfied with minimal hurt and maximum happiness.

biggrin I've always hoped that the more we try to understand each other the more peace we can achieve.  

[Shearaha]

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I need some advice from an outside standpoint and I apologize if this is not in the right place. I will move it if need be.

So, a little background: I'm engaged to a wonderful man who I love with my entire being and he has three wonderful girls from a previous marriage. They live with their mother but they stay over often.

I am a serious BTW Seeker and outside of my seeking I do some basic generic eclectic witchcraft pretty often, for lack of a better way of phrasing it. Or at least I did before I moved in with my fiancée. I do not know people in my area as I have recently moved and I have finally settled into the area with a wonderful job that I love waking up and going to everyday (after being unemployed for 7 months).

Now, this all sounds absolutely wonderful and I feel fortunate and grateful. However, his ex-wife is extremely bigoted towards 'witchcraft' and 'witches'. The extent of her fear extends so far that she prevents her children from watching or reading Harry Potter, anything of the supernatural or occult, no Wizard of Oz, absolutely no fantasy books of any kind, nothing. She does not want them exposed to any of that in any way.

Because of this, I have retreated so far in my practice that I am not comfortable talking about it or doing anything in my own household. He feels like I am shutting him out of this part of my life and I agree with him in that I am. Yet, my fear is as such: I am afraid of being outted as a witch to his ex-wife. His eldest is extremely shrewd and I will admit, I have let some things accidentally slip.

I am afraid that if she finds out she will fight to have sole custody of the children and we will never see them again. However, my fear has caused me to shut my fiancée out of my practice and it is causing a slight friction that I am unsure of how to resolve.

I feel as though I am at an impasse. Some advice would be wonderful. Thank you.

Have you explained these feelings to your fiancée?  

[`S e v e n]

Brass Bell Doll

Is there a way you might be able to fully manifest a spiritual path that isn't couched in witchcraft for you to participate with your family in, while leaving your Wiccan Seeking to fulfill your desire for witchcraft to be part of your life?

That's where I am unsure of how to proceed. Perhaps I could check out the local UU and see what they're all about.

Shearaha

Have you explained these feelings to your fiancée?

Absolutely and we have kind of come to a stand still. I do not feel as though I can bring anything into the household as it is simply too risky. He feels as though I am intentionally shutting him out. As a couple, we're attached to the hip. He wants to be apart of what I am doing but I do not want to feel as if this is being pushed upon him.
He's particularly indifferent to this sort of thing and has no opinion. Perhaps baby steps into what I do and slowly including him would be the best way to approach it while keeping it out of the house?  

[maenad nuri]

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He's particularly indifferent to this sort of thing and has no opinion. Perhaps baby steps into what I do and slowly including him would be the best way to approach it while keeping it out of the house?

That would probably be a good start. It's what I'm doing (although, with my husband it's more a "I don't get you at all" sort of thing I'm working with.)  

[Molly Mollusca]

How about creating a space in your home which can be locked? Like a cabinet or box. In there you can keep your witchy items save and out of harms way. It is none of the children's business anyway.
It is your house now too right?

Do try to work this out before you marry. You should feel save in your own house and should be free to have things for yourself.  

[Brass Bell Doll]

Did everyone have a nice equinox?  

[Wrath of Ezekiel]

TO be honest, it completely flew over my head. sweatdrop  

[Shearaha]

Brass Bell Doll

Did everyone have a nice equinox?

Very nice. I didn't get to do everything that I wanted to, but everything that needed to get done came together at the last minute. All and all went well.  

[rmcdra]

Found something neat for the DS.

Glory of Heracles  

[Shearaha]

Yet another game that makes me wish I had a DS. Hmm, I wonder how much they're going for now on Ebay?  

[whiporwill-o]

HI EVERYONE!! blaugh

just letting you all know that i'm still alive. school is getting harder and so far i have all As. i'm trying to get into Phi Theta Kappa, whee! whee  

[Fiddlers Green]

Sorry I haven't been around much lately. I got furloughed from my job, and replacements are hard to come by. It's left me in a mood and I don't want to inflict that on anyone here.  

[`S e v e n]

@Molly: That's actually a fantastic idea and if it stays confined to our bedroom, which the kids are not allowed into, it could work pretty well.

@Nuri: Yeah, the fiancee has that same outlook. There's a Witches Meetup this upcoming week, and although I'm not too keen on the subject matter, it' a good opportunity to meet pagans in the area. And, I'm bringing the fiancee with me. Should definitely prove to be interesting.


Starting belly dancing classes this Saturday. I've always wanted to and this is my first class and I'm wicked excited. The weekend can't come fast enough. =D  

[maenad nuri]

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@Nuri: Yeah, the fiancee has that same outlook. There's a Witches Meetup this upcoming week, and although I'm not too keen on the subject matter, it' a good opportunity to meet pagans in the area. And, I'm bringing the fiancee with me. Should definitely prove to be interesting.

The only pagan things husband goes to is meetups of people here. He thinks the folks are here are a little ....off. I don't blame him.

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Starting belly dancing classes this Saturday. I've always wanted to and this is my first class and I'm wicked excited. The weekend can't come fast enough. =D

Yay! Do you know what style? Mine seems very generic bellydance, but I'm trying to learn fusion styling.