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The only differences between male and female are those we have been taught to perceive by society. The man's brainwashed you, man

It might sound mean, but if you have to ask how to write a woman, you're probably not ready to write people in general.



There's more, but I can't post all the things...or can I?

no actually the reason why this conversation is happeneing is because you are making a big issue and overthinking s**t out of absolutely nothing pretty much!

so let me get something straight though: you dont think, in the whole wide world, there is a woman who has the same mind set and thought process as a man? there are people who are genderqueer who are male/female by sex but dont identify with any gender. how is their thought process, according to you? is everything that binary in your world? because see here's the thing: in the real world, and any worlds you create to make them more diverse and believable, shouldnt be that binary.

but hey man you pretty much stated my point exactly: "If men and women were the same, in every way, which seems to be your argument, then there would be no differences between men and women at all aside from the physical."

now keep in mind i mean that in the most general sense. i think a pretty well writted character is one that you can swap out gender identification and have the character still be the same person.

How you write females really depends on the age group your writing for.

If you intend for adults to read it, talking about female cramping, periods, etc. is completely fine. Anything for YA might have it. If your female is a warrior-type and you want to get around writing about cramps every month in the story, a few fantasy novels I have read had the female character take some herbs or have someone cast a spell on them that completely eliminates their period--and their ability to have children as a result.

I think it's Tamora Pierce who deals with the subject rather well in her fantasy novels.

>_> what you described is exactly my problem irl.
Though I just tell people I'm a chick because I get tired of explaining time after time genderqueer and not transgender. And I only let some people know because my current environment can barely handle me knowing that I'm bisexual. It's too tiring at the moment to rock the boat except when asking questions in class and talking about using dental dams in safe sex practices.


I agree that a well developed character can be at ease being male or female. Though I did have fun playing up my character, Slick, when he went through a genderbending episode when doing comics in the Avatar Battle Royale. It was fun poking at him being insecure and hypocritical when he changed into fem Slick.

What I really dislike are the genderbending females in manga that act all so tough and manly. Then their secret is out that they are a girl and it's practically a personality change. WTF.

I don't think there are women who pee outside for the sole purpose of marking their territory. A lot of guys, and by that I mean every guy that the subject has come up around, that I know do this.

There are stupid little things that men do and women don't. There are stupid little things that women do and men don't.

If you write a story where someone has a gun, and you say 'they took the Glock off of safety' you have just destroyed every shred of realism in your story, because a Glock does not have a safety. Your reader who knows this has just been removed from the story completely, and you've destroyed the world that you built.

Stupid little details can throw off a story for the reader, and that's why I don't think I can write a story about a woman, because that tiny little detail that will remove the reader from the story.

And honestly, being a transgender is completely different than being a man or a woman. As a man, if I can't understand what it's lot be a woman, how do you expect me to assume I know anything about being transgender?